What is depression and how to survive it Read this story

The story is about your struggle with depression

The truth behind depression most people don’t know the fact, the cause, the symptoms, the effects and most importantly the treatment.

I spent 4 years with it, I struggled with it and I survived it.

Here are all I know about depression   suppose that someone comes to your right now and asks what is depression? I’m sure you would say something won’t you?

We all know that depression is mood

some of you call it a condition, a situation. I know a few friends who call it a moment but is that true?

Allow me to start without a further due:

Depression????

4 question marks

This is the worst topic in human history. It kills but You don’t have to die while I’m here

My names are King Vick, I was born in Rwanda / Kigali city  I studied primary school and secondary school but dropped out of university.

The reason is…

DEPRESSION

I was supposed to be a normal teenager, study hard, finish school, go to university and then get a good job

what happened?

What happened is what is happening to most of the youngsters out there …Children, teenagers, mature, old, men and women

A lot of people are going through or have been through depression in their life with depression, there is always something to lose.

I lost my university studies, Someone lost his/her job, Someone died, people lost everything, Parents have divorced, children have been orphans, couples have killed each other, businesses has struggled ,Children lost their focus.

In this world, a lot has happened because of depression.

As I’m writing this It is 3 am, I slept early last night and now I can’t sleep, This is normal sometimes you wake up in the middle of the night and think about your life, I’m  thinking about my past, the hard times I used to have ,,As I was reckoning all of it.

I thought.. You know what? What if I write about my story? it might help someone out there who knows? Maybe ….

My story might change the world

You know what they say?                    Changing the world is not that difficult      Do the right thing for you and a few others it starts with you.

Before i start Let me give you the right meaning of depression.

Depression is a mood disorder that causes feelings of sadness, emptiness, and loss of joy.

I was just 19 years old

In short: I grew up in a proper family, A father and a mother who loved each other, I had siblings   I remember everything was normal back then, I went to school, scored Highschool,  I was happy, a happy kid with a happy friends and a happy …At 14 years old I lost my father ,Few years later my mom lost her job.

My life was a mess

Going to school was hard, Struggling to pay a semester fees my mom was already having a lot on her plate.

I don’t know how she did it but She could always manage take me back  ..Looking at her pain, struggling for me As if carrying me in her womb for 9 months wasn’t enough hurt me.

I could spend nights crying,sobbing, screaming, calling out God, begging him to bless my mother.

If u are a female and u are reading this  ,I salute you,,     you are a God’s sent and I do respect everything you do….kudos

u are a miracle🙏

I had only one goal

Study hard, finish as soon as possible and go out there to help your mother

I had a goal that the moment I will finish school I will solve 80% problems of my family

With all the hardships I finished school and this time I was ready to work hard and help my mom

But there is a big question I had never asked myself when I was in school

what to do? Who will give me the job?         How will I help my mother?

When you are a student All you think about it is  If I finish school I will work hard and be successful.

No one ever think like…

What if I finish school what will I do?

This is the big question that can change any student’s life but No one bothers

So jobless hit me after school.

The whole of 2016, I was having too much stress in my mind, No job, no possibility, no idea, no connection and not even an interview.

Do you really feel me? Or have you ever felt the same way? If so

I think now it is the perfect time I tell u the symptoms of depression : loss of interest or activities, changes in appetite and body weight, Loss or over gain, fatigue ,difficulty sleeping or oversleeping ,feelings of guilt, Worthlessness, difficulty concentrating or making decisions, thoughts of death or suicide attempts, Physical changes, peer pressure,

I didn’t have only four

It was like I had all of them, I was hating everyone, sad, anger issues, I could spend days sleeping, I just wanted to go to sleep and not wake up again ,I was lonely, darkness covering my eyes for 24 hours.

No lights, no sun  Just nights and dark

I used to think about my life, what did I do wrong? What would have happened if my father never died or if I was born into a different family?

Or if. If…if. If There were many ifs in my life

I went to university and tried to study but it was a lot   Life was hitting me hard and I couldn’t take it

Long story short I dropped out

There is this time in your life when you don’t feel anything anymore

You don’t cry anymore

You don’t laugh, you don’t care whether you eat or starve You don’t feel pain anymore ,You can’t have feelings for someone ,You are just like a stone under the bridge

I felt it, I lived it and I survived through it

This turns to the ending part of the story

But what would be the purpose if I finish this without telling you guys how I overcame it

Right now I’m fine

I found a job and even though I’m not where I wanted to be

I’m glad I’m somewhere and I know that one day I will repay my mother for everything she did for me

Have you ever met a stranger? Like someone you don’t know

Coincidently you find yourself having a conversation with someone you know nothing about.

Read this carefully

In 2019

I was depressed

I had tried everything and nothing ever worked

Motivations, videos, google, videos,

Nothing seemed to be helping and I was left lonely

There is choosing to stay alone and there is being lonely

Loneliness isn’t the worst feeling

The time you sit and think nothing but see the shadow everywhere

Even if a cat steps on you

Scratch you with her fingers

You won’t feel anything

I don’t know where I got the energy but I told my friend bits of my story and he connected me with a lady

I accepted

. She asked me to tell her what was going on with my life I agreed…

The moment I started talking I couldn’t stop

I remember telling her everything crying out the feelings

All she ever did was listen the thing I loved the most was her face during my talking a normal face, humble and caring one she didn’t seem to judge any of my actions

I felt relieved like I have been having a stone in my heart and that time that was the day I realized that I was a human being again

And the she asked me to join her in the evening run

We used to run for 30 minutes 3 days a week

She asked me to join her in the Gym

I started jumping rope ,Lifting small weight

I did some yoga, sit-ups and pushups ,I started finding myself again Sweating, waking up in the morning with a purpose,I started seeing myself as a human being again

And in 3 months of having someone around me who cared for me, who cared for my situation ,I wasn’t alone anymore ,She helped me find a reason to live ,

And by now i can say

I survived depression because of her

Depression is the leading cause of disability around the world, according to the WHO, Second leading cause of death First cause of poverty in youth among the leading cause of addiction.

The third leading cause of suicide in the world

It doesn’t have types or favorites  No one is immune to it No one and it doesn’t only attack the poor

The rich can back me here

Depression is treatable, though the treatment may depend on the exact type a person is living with

Here are the list of celebrities that should give you hope that depressions can be treated

Demi Lovato

1. K. Rowling

Lady Gaga

Brooke Shields

Gwyneth Paltrow

Cara Delavigne

Dwayne Johnson

Jim Carrey

Ryan Reynolds

Sarah Silverman

Wayne Brady

Kerry Washington

Michael Phelps

Owen Wilson

Ellen DeGeneres

Ashley Judd

Brad Pitt

Bruce Springsteen

Emma Thompson

Chris Evans

All these super stars have been through and survived depression

So if you have depression                            Don’t give up

So what can you do to treat depression?

You can’t keep all these feelings inside of your heart forever, they will Kill you

Find someone to tell your whole story

Your friends can’t be trusted sometimes your parents can’t help But you can see a therapist

a stranger

Someone you don’t know much

Someone who is willing to listen to you

You can find him/her through your friends

But I would say talking to these three people will help

No one can help you As long as you don’t want to be helped or as long you don’t want to share your story

The study has found that sport come second as the possibility to recovering from depression

Work out, jumping role, push ups

Something to make your body active, make you sweat and remind you that you have muscles that works

Study also found that eating more of the following foods helped reduce depression symptoms:

fruit

vegetables

fish

olive

Bananas

Your favorite dishes

Another thing you might need to try is

Praying

If you believe in God

Please befriend a Bible

Wake up at nights

Pray, call God

It doesn’t work to many but it might work for you

With depression …. you have lost all the hopes

So if you want to overcome it

You need hope ,You need to anything that can bring back hope in your Body

Remember

Nothing is permanent in your life…

Nothing is permanent in your life unless you refuse to fight It is okay.

You are a human being and what you are going through isn’t a curse ,,You are sick and if you want treatment

Please the time is now

You can overcome it easily if you get treatment early

If your friend is having the symptoms

Please be that stranger who is willing to help

Make it your job and go same a person’s life

You can change the world by changing someone and you can do it

All you have to do

Is listen…don’t judge just listen and let them know that you are there for them                                                                           If they push you away stay Force it…stay

Never let a depressed person pushes you away

They need you

They just don’t have the energy to accept it

Suicide prevention

If you know someone at immediate risk of self-harm, suicide, or hurting another person:

Ask the tough question: “Are you considering suicide?”Listen to the person without judgment.

Call 911 or the local emergency number, or  communicate with a trained crisis counselor.

Call any emergency, immediately ,Stay with the person until professional help arrives., Try to remove any weapons, medications, or other potentially harmful objects.

Make it your priority to save a human being

We were born alone ,we found people in the world

We don’t have to live alone

We need each other

We will always do

TOGETHER WE CAN STOP THE LOSSES CAUSED BY DEPRESSION

Thank you so much for reading

I’m king Vick